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Leave a legacy, a part of the life fabric of a family, a part of how we live our lives fully.

How many times have you said, "I think my family members know me better than anybody, and know where I stand on issues, even though we have not discussed it openly." Most people have such excuses for not having these difficult conversations, yet believe it is important that they do express their wishes to a loved one.

When is the right time?

While most wait until they are faced with a terminal illness to do Advanced Care Planning, it is suggested that certain milestones in life present an opportunity. When you marry, have children, or realize you have passed that certain birthday, it is a good time to start. Some have suggested the right time is "now", because death can occur anytime.

Can't I just rely on my family to make my care decisions when I am unable to make decisions for myself?

You can, if they are available and they all agree on the treatment course. However, problems arise because family members may not know what you would want in a given situation or they may disagree about the best course of action. In these situations, you risk having decisions made contrary to your wishes. Your gift to your family is one of providing clear direction by completing and signing a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care Decisions (downloadable version for Kansans) and by sharing a copy with family, physician., and others.

Doesn't Advance Care Planning mean "Don't treat me"?

No, it really means you have a choice. Comfort care measures including adequate pain management are part of the treatment plan along with respect for one's dignity.

Isn't Advance Care Planning a legal tool for old people only?

No, it may be natural to link death and dying issues with old age but the most well know cases involved individuals in their 20's - Karen Ann Quilan and Nan Cruzan. The stakes are actually higher for younger persons in that they might be kept for decades in a condition they would not want. An Advance Directive is an important legal planning tool for all adults.

What other information would be helpful for my family?

Additional written instructions provide an invaluable resource for the family. Prepare a list of names, addresses, and phone numbers of your doctor, attorney, relatives, friends, business associates, and religious and social organizations that you want to be notified of your death. Write down your decisions regarding organ donation, burial, cremation, and arrangements. Provide your family with information about your place of birth, career background, education, special achievements, military service, involvement with organizations, hobbies, and memorial contribution preferences. If you know the type of service you want, where it will be held, and special music, this is the time to spell out your preferences in writing.

Remember to bequest to your family the gifts of clear direction, rich memories, and unique insights.


	Leaving a Legacy *Bequest to your family the gifts of clear direction, rich memories, and unique insights.* by Carolyn Carter, RN, MN
	Leave a legacy, a part of the life fabric of a family, a part of how we live our lives fully. How many times have you said, "I think my family members know me better than anybody, and know where I stand on issues, even though we have not discussed it openly." Most people have such excuses for not having these difficult conversations, yet believe it is important that they do express their wishes to a loved one. *When is the right time?* While most wait until they are faced with a terminal illness to do Advanced Care Planning, it is suggested that certain milestones in life present an opportunity. When you marry, have children, or realize you have passed that certain birthday, it is a good time to start. Some have suggested the right time is "now", because death can occur anytime. *Can't I just rely on my family to make my care decisions when I am unable to make decisions for myself?* You can, if they are available and they all agree on the treatment course. However, problems arise because family members may not know what you would want in a given situation or they may disagree about the best course of action. In these situations, you risk having decisions made contrary to your wishes. Your gift to your family is one of providing clear direction by completing and signing a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care Decisions (downloadable version for Kansans) and by sharing a copy with family, physician., and others. *Doesn't Advance Care Planning mean "Don't treat me"?* No, it really means you have a choice. Comfort care measures including adequate pain management are part of the treatment plan along with respect for one's dignity. *Isn't Advance Care Planning a legal tool for old people only?* No, it may be natural to link death and dying issues with old age but the most well know cases involved individuals in their 20's - Karen Ann Quilan and Nan Cruzan. The stakes are actually higher for younger persons in that they might be kept for decades in a condition they would not want. An Advance Directive is an important legal planning tool for all adults. *What other information would be helpful for my family?* Additional written instructions provide an invaluable resource for the family. Prepare a list of names, addresses, and phone numbers of your doctor, attorney, relatives, friends, business associates, and religious and social organizations that you want to be notified of your death. Write down your decisions regarding organ donation, burial, cremation, and arrangements. Provide your family with information about your place of birth, career background, education, special achievements, military service, involvement with organizations, hobbies, and memorial contribution preferences. If you know the type of service you want, where it will be held, and special music, this is the time to spell out your preferences in writing. *Remember to bequest to your family the gifts of clear direction, rich memories, and unique insights.* Back Top Next Site Map
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